Change is REALLY hard for kids with Asperger's to handle.
Craig Kendall (who is dad to a young man called Alex with Asperger’s
from Solana Beach, California) has written an article on how
to help your child cope with change.
Right at the end of his article Craig also has an interesting proposition
for you; so here it is:
“3 tips to help your child cope with change:
1. Start slowly
Identify areas in which you want to work. Trying to go into new stores,
or wear different kinds of clothing.
Change one thing in the routine.
Start with an easy, low stress store, and work your way up.
Add more gradually, after a feeling of mastery has been achieved with
the previous attempt.
Never add more before the person is comfortable with the current
difficulty level.
2. Plan rewards to look forward to
This is very important. The brain is full of so much anxiety about the
new thing that you need to do something to subvert it.
So combine something the person is interested in or even passionate a
bout it with the new thing.
For example, I have trouble going into most buildings because of the
overwhelming sensory stimuli inside them. After not going into any
stores for years, I started with chocolate stores.
My excitement for chocolate in the store would distract my brain from
the anxiety.
Do this enough times, and it will lead to enough confidence to start
branching out:
* Hide candy or treats in new clothes.
* Make a trip in the car on a different route a scavenger hunt of some kind.
* Promise a favored food for eating an unfamiliar one.
* Play soothing or favored music on the way to or during a doctor’s
The idea is to have something that can distract the brain and replace
anxiety with excitement, or at least some degree of calmness.
3. Visualize, visualize, visualize
The most important thing you can do to help someone get ready for
something new is to have them visualize it.
Before I do anything new, the night before, I close my eyes and visualize
how I will feel (calm and confident), I imagine walking through the doors
of the store calmly.
I imagine things that might bother me and reacting calmly to them.
This helps override the anxiety response.
If you are dealing with a child, write a social story about what he will do
and use emotional words like calm and confident.
Read it to him several times or have him read it. Include things that might
bother him, and model positive ways of reacting to and dealing with these
Such as leaving if necessary, covering one’s ears, telling an adult, taking
deep breaths, thinking about something happy, thinking of the reward
ahead, etc.”
I hope these tips have been helpful.

Positive effects of neurofeedback on autism symptoms correlate with brain activation during imitation and observation
:small_blue_diamond:European Journal of Neuroscience

:o:Autism has been characterized by atypical task-related brain activation and functional connections, coinciding with deficits in sociocommunicative abilities. However, evidence of the brain's experience-dependent plasticity suggests that abnormal activity patterns may be reversed with treatment.

:o:In particular, neurofeedback training (NFT), an intervention based on operant conditioning resulting in self-regulation of brain electrical oscillations, has shown increasing promise in addressing abnormalities in brain function and behavior.

:o:We examined the effects of ≥ 20 h of sensorimotor mu-rhythm-based NFT in children with high-functioning autism spectrum disorders (ASD) and a matched control group of typically developing children (ages 8–17).

:o:During a functional magnetic resonance imaging imitation and observation task, the ASD group showed increased activation in regions of the human mirror neuron system following the NFT, as part of a significant interaction between group (ASD vs. controls) and training (pre- vs. post-training).

:o:These changes were positively correlated with behavioral improvements in the ASD participants, indicating that mu-rhythm NFT may be beneficial to individuals with ASD.

Frontal alpha asymmetry neurofeedback for the reduction of negative affect and anxiety

:small_blue_diamond:Behaviour Research and Therapy

:o: Frontal alpha asymmetry has been proposed to underlie the balance between approach and withdrawal motivation associated to each individual's affective style. Neurofeedback of EEG frontal alpha asymmetry represents a promising tool to reduce negative affect, although its specific effects on left/right frontal activity and approach/withdrawal motivation are still unclear.

:o: The present study employed a neurofeedback training to increase frontal alpha asymmetry (right - left), in order to evaluate discrete changes in alpha power at left and right sites, as well as in positive and negative affect, anxiety and depression.

:o: Thirty-two right-handed females were randomly assigned to receive either the neurofeedback on frontal alpha asymmetry, or an active control training (N = 16 in each group). The asymmetry group showed an increase in alpha asymmetry driven by higher alpha at the right site (p < 0.001), as well as a coherent reduction in both negative affect and anxiety symptoms (ps < 0.05), from pre-to post-training. No training-specific modulation emerged for positive affect and depressive symptoms.

:o: These findings provide a strong rationale for the use of frontal alpha asymmetry neurofeedback for the reduction of negative affect and anxiety in clinical settings.

What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)?

If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you probably feel like you’re on a rollercoaster—and not just with your emotions or relationships, but your sense of who you are. Your self-image, goals, and even your likes and dislikes may change frequently in ways that feel confusing and unclear.

People with BPD tend to be extremely sensitive. Some describe it as feeling like an exposed nerve ending. Small things can trigger intense reactions. And once upset, you have a hard time calming down. It’s easy to understand how this emotional volatility and inability to self-soothe leads to relationship turmoil and impulsive—even reckless—behavior. When you’re in the throes of overwhelming emotion, you’re unable to think straight and stay grounded. You may say hurtful things or act out in dangerous or inappropriate ways that make you feel guilty and ashamed later on. It’s a painful cycle that can feel impossible to escape. But it’s not.